Why My Kids Are Going To Be Rich and Yours Aren’t

(unless you do something about it now)

Did my snappy headline get your attention? Did it annoy you to the point where you had to click through just to see what the hell is waiting on the other side? Good.

I’ve managed to get one kid from birth through his second year of college, and two others through 6th as 7th grade without too much trouble (as of the time of this writing). I’ve made some mistakes by being WAY to easy at times, and probably a complete pain in the ass in others.

But along the way I’ve made some observations and know what works and what doesn’t. I’m not a child psychologist, and really have no idea what I’m talking about from an academic perspective, I just know what has worked in our case. I look around, I see things, I’m smart.

Actual footage of one of my kids staring at me while I have a fit in my comfy Dad chair:


My Amazing List of Things You Can Do As A Parent To Make Your Kids More Awesome Than You Ever Were

(or at least give them a fighting chance in a world that is out to get us).

Make your kids put down the game controller, get off the damn couch, and start building an amazing life. Here are some idea’s, they are things we “make” our kids do.

Make them do something around the house.

Back in the “old days” these used to be called chores. It’s good for a kid to be responsible for something. Have them keep their room clean, collect laundry and bring to the washing machine, make dinner, pack lunch for school, load the dishwasher, unload the dishwasher, keep the yard cleaned up, mow the grass, take out the trash, bring the trash cans back to the house, pick up the mail, etc. Uh, wait…not all this stuff, just one or two things.

Start a business

There is an extreme amount of confidence and security that comes with being able to make money appear out of nowhere. It is a mindset that needs to be developed that will be pretty disturbing. It isn’t necessary to “get a job” but that is what we always fall back on. Even people that have started a company think “Man, maybe I should quit this nonsense and just get a job.” Why do business owners think that? Because jobs are easy. But anyone that has owned their own business before, and then later gone to work for someone else, will tell you “Having a job sucks.”

Play a sport

Or maybe two or three. Competition and teamwork. Even sports thought of as solo sports such as running and swimming are team based. In life there are winners and losers. Sports conditions the body through exercise and the mind through learning plays, dealing with the mental rush of defeating opponents, and the pain of losing a hard fought battle.

Everyone can not win an event. Sure you get out on the field and “do your best”, but sometimes your best just isn’t good enough. That’s where practice and coaching comes in, to make yourself better at something. These lessons translate directly to life. Your kids must be coachable, they must be able to operate in a team environment, they must be able to pull together and grunt it out through tough times, they must be able to sit down and learn something new, and practice new things to develop skills.

Develop a winning mindset. Nothing is too hard, quitting is never an option. We need to break the mental bullshit we are drilling into our kids heads that everyone’s a winner.

Learn an instrument, then join in a band.

A group of 6th graders walk into a room, some have played an instrument, most have not. The band teacher has each kid try out a few different instruments trying to identify natural talent then assigns a kid an instrument. The kid takes the instrument home, learns to play a few notes, learns how to play a scale. The teacher teaches each section their part, the kids play the part expected of them. By Christmas, the band can play a song that everyone in the audience can recognize. The kids keep practicing and learning new songs over the spring. By the time the last concert before summer break rolls around, the band is playing fairly complicated songs and the teacher is beaming. The kids are pumped, the parents are amazed.

Learning how to play an instrument is a very rewarding skill that takes discipline and patience.

Learning how to play in a band is just another team sport, there are competitions too. Practice, performance, competition. It’s all very, very good for young (and old) minds.


Reading is a topic that I can literally spend hours talking about. I think it might be one of those “find your passion” things! But unfortunately I wouldn’t know where to start in actually teaching someone to read. Although, when my oldest son was about 4, we bought a collection of beginner books on a trip up to the Inner Harbor in Baltimore and he started reading in a few days. The teachers in a school that my kids went to made reading both fun and socially acceptable. Every kid in the school read and it became a competition. Competition is also good!

Reading opens up worlds that many don’t know exist. It is a way to learn new things without having to set foot in a classroom. Reading is one of those habits that is formed over time. The Pew Research Center studies who reads (or who doesn’t read) and reports that those with higher incomes and more education read more: “Women are more likely than men to have read a book in the previous 12 months, and those with higher levels of income and education are more likely to have done so as well.”



Books are expensive, libraries aren’t. Get your kid a library card, encourage them to go to the library in their school.

You can find a library near you at WorldCat: http://www.worldcat.org/libraries

Open Library

Open Library is an initiative of the Internet Archive, a 501(c)(3) non-profit, building a digital library of Internet sites and other cultural artifacts in digital form.

Having a condition that prevents your child from reading physical books doesn’t have to be a barrier. Bookshare makes reading possible. Bookshare is the world’s largest accessible online library for people with print disabilities. More than 425,000 people in 70 countries have access to Bookshare’s collection of 631,251 titles.



Using your time to make things better. You know it’s a good thing, and you will meet people that you will want to be around, and will want to do business with you and your kids. Go to a church when they are having a free dinner night, you and your kids serve people that have less than you. It’ll open your eyes.

Be a good example

The pressure is on, because this one is on you. You might think that it’s too late to play sports, join a band, or learn something new but it isn’t. The only time it is too late to do something is when you are sealed up in a box and getting lowered into a hole. Use every single day to do something for yourself, and in turn do something good for those around you, specifically your kids.

As an example. When my first kid was born, I hadn’t finished college. I owned a company that was making money and I was supporting a new family, but I knew that (in my field), not having a college degree would eventually become a problem. So I pushed through and finished a degree by taking a few classes. I then pushed on to get a Masters degree.

My health was starting to really suck. I started jogging, entered a 5k, ran it, then ran another. I started going to the gym to work out while one of my kids is at swim practice. My resting heart rate and blood pressure have dropped like a rock.

Set a good example when it comes to things that might not be so good for you: eating, smoking, drinking, drugs. Don’t tell your kids to do anything different that what you do yourself. Sitting you fat ass in a corner pounding beer and cheese then telling your kids to not drink or overeat kind of makes you look like a dumbass.